rupa and the april fishes

so yet again inspired by a wonderful band last night - thanks to Manjot ... I like the the idea that books and films and music comes to you as you need it .. am so glad that lots of people came and were suitably inspired .. she's got a wonderful backrgound and maybe thats why I can relate to her, well minus the incredible musical talent, but that she's performing and living her passion.. she rasied the idea that why do people need to earn money and leave their families so far from home , because they care and love them , yet have to leave those they love and care about because of their need for money as the developed world is now prescribing, the old stance that "primitive" values are still primitive .. or thought to be non modern .  what is modern - more and more - its keeping up with the Jones- the fact that we need homes built out of bricks and mortar and need stabilty.. that people are scared of moving around and adapting .. loosing the sjills to adpat and change  - is that what modernity is about and also the need to be dependant upone others for a state. for things to work. for things to develop - the control is gradually taken out of life and our beings. In the UK - its nto considered the societal norm if you don't have a home, a mortgage or life long debt , we have truly bought into  this. I feel at ease with my work, job and home now that I have realised this. doing the course has helped me define the need that I enjoy my job but am not a slave to it. and that I am not a slave to society but can contribute in my own way. if there is a lack of job or opportunity then its follwoing the flow and not going against it.
its been a difficult time for people and discussing life options and the choices that we are given - is it to much choice and how do we know that it is the right decision .  for example - undergoing chemo - is it a god given right that we need to have childern, or again that society is pushing the ideals for ir - you have an "ego unit" the family , the need of procreating and developing your own controlled world within another controlled world. The decisions are a difficult one - and there is no right nor wrong,  when discussing pregnancy, it seems that everyone ahs an opinion or is that opinion a  media driven , western middle class ideal. and any deviation from the script questions the reasons why we do things - you can't take a child back but you can screw them up.  I wonder.. Do you want embryps lying ina  freezer waiting in the hope that one day you decide to go for it and then they don;t grow or align to the womb.. is that more of a disappointment as hope was created , or is it right that science gives us a choice  and we are lucky enough to ahve the chance to do this.